A Bigger Life

What happens when you stop trying to be the woman everyone wants you to be, and start asking what you want instead?

'Beautifully written with generosity, candour, intelligence and wit' – Elizabeth Day

‘I barely came up for breath. The honesty, the vulnerability…I inhaled it’ – Joanne McNally

At 38, Louise O’Neill had the life she thought she wanted. The relationship. The home. The future. Then it all ended.

What followed was an extraordinary dating odyssey across Paris, London and New York, meeting a different man each night. The stories are outrageous, intimate and frequently hilarious, but the men are only the beginning.

As Louise steps outside the life she thought she was supposed to want, she begins to question the rules that got her there in the first place.

Why are women still taught to make themselves smaller, easier and more pliable to be loved

Why are we so frightened of ageing?

How do we measure success when marriage and motherhood are no longer inevitable milestones? What has modern dating done to intimacy?

And what does it mean to desire men at a moment when masculinity itself feels increasingly contested?

Turning her trademark sharp, fearless eye on ageing, beauty, sex, motherhood, modern masculinity, loneliness, ambition and the pressure to settle, Louise examines the contradictions of being a woman today while implicating herself in every one of them.

Fearlessly honest, fiercely intelligent and laugh-out-loud funny, A Bigger Life is a memoir about what happens when you stop shrinking yourself to fit the life you’ve been given and asks us all to reflect on the question at the heart of the book: What does it really mean to live a bigger life?

Readers can't resist falling in love with this extraordinary book:

'A groundbreaking shift in how we talk about women, love and relationships’ – Marian Keyes

'[This book is] so fierce, and so tender! It's utterly captivating, profound and it's very, very funny' – Daisy Buchanan